Teenagers and sex..... (possibly)

[Azz]

That's great Jim, congrats on doing it right 

[Terry W4]

Jim - that bought a tear to my eye. You and your kids will be fine. And they will respect you. Winners.

[Bird]

Mate of mine let his daughters scrotefriend move in when she was 15.. yes.. 2 of them by 18yrs old...

[Bunyip]

Let me start by saying that for the OP and others who have kids who are willing to etll them stuff, congrats. That is probably not only the hardewst thing to foster in a child, but the greatest achievement.

Whilst I am not sure my eldest is totally honest with us, all our kids know that no matter what happens they can call us any time of the day or night. Doesn't matter what has happened we will support them, they also know that if they have broken the law we expect them to stand up and take what comes their way. Some parents we know mistake "supporting" for protecting no matter what.

Both my boys are living away from home now, but my daughter who just turned 14 is going to be a handful when she hits that stage.

Her problem (or her boyfriends problem really) is not going to be me but her two very protective older brothers. They have already scared off one guy within an hour of her posting on facebook. Had to put a leash on both boys as if they are too heavy handed it will only send things underground, which we don't want.

I fully trust my daughter to make the right decision, wether I like it or not.

Bunyip

[Yimmy]

Bunyip,

Totally agree, our kids have always known that whatever the situation call and we will come, as I tell them tho we might have an intense conversation the next day.

They are not perfect and as parents we know this, agree that some parents little darlings are never wrong.

I suppose I had experience from the other side that coloured my choices, my middle sister ( I'm the baby of the family) was a right bitch to my mum and dad, drinking at 15 drugs at 16 and pregnant at 17, it was probably the thing that saved her, she now has 5 kids and 2 grand kids 

Good mate had his first at 17, second at 19 and third at 21, jeez I was practically ancient at 22 when I had my first :-)

Jim

[Bunyip]

Good mate had his first at 17, second at 19 and third at 21, jeez I was practically ancient at 22 when I had my first :-)

Jim

Jim,

We had our first at 18, second at 20, third at 26. Lots of people said we would never last, we had our 20th Wedding anniversary last Wednesday.
Mind you I was not a heavy drinker and have never done any drugs (illegal drugs that is), just started young.

Bunyip

[oldmate]

Jim,

We had our first at 18, second at 20, third at 26. Lots of people said we would never last, we had our 20th Wedding anniversary last Wednesday.
Mind you I was not a heavy drinker and have never done any drugs (illegal drugs that is), just started young.

Bunyip

I had my one and only at 19.  He was born 7 days before my 20th.

[fishfinder]

I have three daughters eldest is 15 next month. 4 years ago I was worried that I would end up in jail if my daughters even spoke to a boy their age, so I had a good think about how to avoid this and decided we have no family at all in Tasmania and no boys or girls will show any interest in my daughters as they are not related so we moved there problem solved.

But in all seriousness I have no idea how i will react when my daughters starts showing interest in boys, hopefully a little different to a father of a girl I was seeing back in my late teens, I would go to their house for dinner have a few ales with her father he would have a skin full and tell me not to sleep on the couch I can sleep with his daughter, then in the morning he would drag me out of the house and try to give me a flogging in the front yard. 

[Darcy7]

I don't have kids....God put an end to that idea.  While learning we could not have children was utterly devastating, there are times when I'm glad we don't have any.  I do not know what I would do in these circumstances.  A bit part of me says NO BLOODY WAY but then at some point the 15 YO will be 16, then 17, then 18...etc.  At what point do I as a father say its his or her choice?

A few years ago, someone on this forum posted about his personal experience where his 15YO son came home with the news he was going to be a father.  The dramas that ensued with the girl's parents was epic and it made me wonder just how desperately unprepared the father was to have come to a camper trailer forum for advice.  There really needs to be good support services for everyone involved in these situations.

Its funny in this day and age, we're always are complaining no one takes responsibility for their actions.  Maybe this is the ultimate lesson in life for our children need to learn about taking responsibility for their actions because, lets face it, the consequences are for ever.

I take my hat off to all parents going through this no matter what you decide to do.    

[MDS69]

I wouldn't mind it if my daughter currently 11yo that when she starts an interest in the opposite sex (maybe who knows as she plays 2 sports where there is a fair lesbian culture in adults ) that we could just jump to when she is married. I really am not looking forward to boys trying to get her drunk, take advantage and all the things we did when we were young. I really don't want to know when that moment has happened, will she still be my little girl

[chester ver2.0]

I wouldn't mind it if my daughter currently 11yo that when she starts an interest in the opposite sex (maybe who knows as she plays 2 sports where there is a fair lesbian culture in adults ) that we could just jump to when she is married. I really am not looking forward to boys trying to get her drunk, take advantage and all the things we did when we were young. I really don't want to know when that moment has happened, will she still be my little girl

Thats funny but having a best friend who has a daughter who she fully supports in a lesbian relationship mum recons sometimes there is even more drama that a Hetro relationship so it looks like you cant win either way