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General => General Discussion => Topic started by: Barrabart on March 21, 2011, 11:33:43 AM
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G'day all,
Just thought i'd get something off my chest here (so my apologies up front)..
My wife has recently undergone major abdominal surgery and is now recovering at home after spending a week in hospital. Last Saturday i was taking my eldest daughter to work in the city and my wife felt like she wanted to get out of the house as she had been cooped up for a couple of weeks, anyway we dropped our daughter off at work then drove to the northern end of the esplanade so we could go for a short slow stroll along the footpath. We had walked about 20 mtrs along the Esplanade when i noticed this bloke and his Mrs were walking straight towards us, obviously doing their Saturday morn de-stress walk on their way to be seen a which ever trendy breakfast joint on the water front. Now i will admit that we were walking on the wrong side of the footpath, but i didn't think this was a great concern as there were very few people around, anyway they looked quite determined to own "their" side of the footpath so i stepped to the other side momentarily forgetting that my wife was struggling just to walk never mind side step a couple of up them self f*ckwits. Anyway i turned around just in time to see my wife had stopped walking and was just braced hoping they would walk around her. The blokes Mrs stepped off the footpath at the last moment, but the bloke had to state his ownership of the 8 inches of concrete between my wife and the grass and subsequently and quite deliberately banged his shoulder into my wifes shoulder.
I was about 4 mtrs from my wife at this time and stepped back to grab my wife who was now in quite a bit of pain, I yelled to the bloke, Good one mate, my wife's just had surgery, to which he replied without stopping "good on her"..... he was obviously more concerned that he nearly had to get his Reeboks dirty by walking on the grass...... Anyway I had to muster every ounce of self control to stop myself chasing after this tool and bashing him senseless, so instead gave him a couple more doses of verbal abuse hoping that might of been enough to make him come back and have another go, but of course the gutless mindless prick just kept walking.....
Then when driving home there are a couple of speed bumps that i had to slow right down for, now i only had one car approaching from behind and he was about 40 mtrs back when i touched on the speed bump, and this w*nker decides that i was ruining his day too by slowing down too much, so almost drives up the arse of our car, i pulled of the road to let him past and he blasts his horn and gives me the usual hand gestures..... as i was already pissed off i felt like stopping in the middle of the road and getting out and discussing his thoughts in a more physical fashion.
Anyway not that i think anyone on here would act in this manner, but since spending the last month at home looking after my mrs, and still having to take her to appointments and use the road and footpaths etc...... I'd just like to put the message out there, as a reminder that sometimes when people or cars are slowing you down, there just might be a genuine reason for the way they are driving or walking....... and for everyone to remember (including me) to be a little more considerate of other peoples situations.
And to the bloke on the Esplanade i hope you appreciate having your own teeth, because you'll never know how close you came to losing them.....
Thanks for letting me have a whinge.
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In the words of Marsellus Wallace
'What now? Lemme tell you what now. I'm gonna call up a couple a hard, pipe-hittin' niggers and go to work on the holmes here with a pair a pliars and a blowtorch. You hear me talkin' Hillbilly Boy? I ain't through with you by a damn site. I'm gonna get medieval on your ass'.
How about a Myswag Posse...
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Hope your missus gets better soon
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I understand where you're coming from.
The word "Courtesy" is fast disappearing from our vocabulary.
Why is that YOU always have to get out the way of someone else?
Why is it that a SAFE distance between cars always seems to be just the right distance for someone else to push in?
Why is it that "Customer Service" staff can't understand why you're frustrated after pushing umpteen buttons on a phone and waiting half an hour to finally talk to a HUMAN?
Why is it that when you've waited patiently in a line, someone else thinks its OK to push in front of you because they haven't got time to wait?
I'm sure others can expand on "why is it so"!
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I know where you are coming from. Nothing like being in your situation to discover how arrogant some people are. Best wishes to your wife for her recovery.
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Had a similar thing happen years ago with a bloke on a skateboard, me & 3 year old on footpath and he coming at us at full pelt expecting us to move, I changed my son to my left hand and coat hangered the little plick off his board :cheers:
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In the words of Marsellus Wallace
'What now? Lemme tell you what now. I'm gonna call up a couple a hard, pipe-hittin' niggers and go to work on the holmes here with a pair a pliars and a blowtorch. You hear me talkin' Hillbilly Boy? I ain't through with you by a damn site. I'm gonna get medieval on your ass'.
How about a Myswag Posse...
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Hope your missus gets better soon
Hahahaa........ No need for a posse....... and yep the wife is improving day by day.
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I understand where you're coming from.
The word "Courtesy" is fast disappearing from our vocabulary.
Why is that YOU always have to get out the way of someone else?
Why is it that a SAFE distance between cars always seems to be just the right distance for someone else to push in?
Why is it that "Customer Service" staff can't understand why you're frustrated after pushing umpteen buttons on a phone and waiting half an hour to finally talk to a HUMAN?
Why is it that when you've waited patiently in a line, someone else thinks its OK to push in front of you because they haven't got time to wait?
I'm sure others can expand on "why is it so"!
Yep and that's all most of this comes down to......... the lack of common courtesy.
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I know where you are coming from. Nothing like being in your situation to discover how arrogant some people are. Best wishes to your wife for her recovery.
Thanks mate....... she's coming along well, she's starting to give me cheek again, so that's a good sign.
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Had a similar thing happen years ago with a bloke on a skateboard, me & 3 year old on footpath and he coming at us at full pelt expecting us to move, I changed my son to my left hand and coat hangered the little plick off his board :cheers:
Good stuff............ Probably the best lesson he's learnt.
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I've learnt as a country optometrist that some of those annoying slow drivers have good reason too - being legal to drive doesn't mean being confident/able to drive at 105 km/h. Sometimes being a bit patient and courteous can be good for both of you....
(That said, the next one who doesn't give way to me is toast! ;D)
Mr Reebok is probably compensating for some other shortcoming (pun intended) 8)
Cheers,
Cam
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There is nothing like giving someone who sorely deserves it a smack in the earhole, its a terrible shame those days are gone, good on you for giving him a mouthful, good to see your missus is on the mend too.
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Had a similar thing happen years ago with a bloke on a skateboard, me & 3 year old on footpath and he coming at us at full pelt expecting us to move, I changed my son to my left hand and coat hangered the little plick off his board :cheers:
It is amazing how quickly their trajectory changes when you step aside and turn your foot out enough to have their inside rear wheel contact with a boot ;D
Hope your wife recovers soon.
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Hey Barrabart,
I know exactly how you (and the Mrs) feel. I had back surgery awhile ago and when I was finally allowed to drive again, I too did the slow and steady thing over speed bumps. Much to the disgust of many a driver. One in particular was in a "work" vehicle and fair up my clacker the enitre time ... and gave me the toot and gesture, so I took much pleasure in ringing his boss, giving them the rego and giving his boss an ear full.
Modern People often Piss Me Off with their lack of understanding for others. It's not hard to re-think your attitude and throw in some polite.
Kit_e
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i would have belted the prick .........
hope ur wife is getting better.
craig
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and to think they're allowed to breed...
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Very glad to hear of your wifes continued improvment,
You know how when you see a person in a wheel chair you naturally make way ( as we should) or you see a person with a disabilty we naturally become a little more paitent.
The problem hear is maybe that guy has to put up with people on the wrong side of the footpath every day and he's jack of it and says to himself well today I'm not moving.
Problem is he's decided to stick his guns on a day when a very decent member of society is trying to recover from surgery.
I'm sure if he was to read this post he would feel about 1 inch tall as he may well be a half decent person too.
I will admit I have done 1 or 2 things in my life that I look back on now and still feel bad about . Had I know about the persons condition I would have acted very differently and as such still carry the guilt today.
Luckily your wife was not hurt and I wish you both all the best for her continued recovery.
Jetcrew :D :D
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Reminds me of when I worked in the middle of Sydney, those few who know me know I'm built like a rugby prop (probably the reason I played as one) anyway I was walking down Castlereagh St one lunch time when this bike courier comes straight for me, on the footpath expecting I'll move> Well I moved, not to far and when he was close enough moved back dropped the shoulder and splat off he comes, bike ends up half on the road half on the footpath and there;s a bus coming, no worries its 2 lanes away, well it is until the driver spots the bike....(score 1 for the good guys)
Couple of days later I'm going out to lunch crossing Park Street (with the lights) and guy wants to turn left but he has to wait for the red arrow to disappear, which it does as soon as the "Don't Walk" starts flashing. Unfortunately I'm right in front of his car, so he blasts the horn. I turn and stare at the silly prick so then he yells at me "what's your problem". Being a friend person who likes to share my opinion I go round to the drivers door to tell him. Silly bugger takes a swing at me, so I reach in turn off the engine grab his keys and fling them to the other side of Park St and keep walking.....(score 2 for the good guys)
These days I'm much more kind and forgiving and when people get to close behind me I slow down to a speed where they can't hit me if I have to stop suddenly. I still walk in a straight line, but I don't know where the Esplanade is and I always step aside for women....
Hope your wife continues to improve, don't waste your time on the Arrogant Pr*cks even if you give them the thumping they deserve they'll sit there wondering what your problem was, not theirs....
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I feel your anguish and I wish your wife the best.
We all need a good vent every now and then.
My only hope is that this ignorant fool has learnt from his mistake.
A true tragedy would be if he continued to be a knob.
Hopefully he has gone away, thought about it and learnt from it.
I know back in my earlier days when I knew everything, I too was probably one of those ignorant fools, but as time goes by I am learning from my mistakes.
Granted, he is an arrogant needle point who annoyed you, but heres to optimism :cheers:
That said, geez the idiot factor is getting larger and larger.
Some chlorinate the gene pool please!!!! :police:
Brian
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Don't try any of that in Seth Efrika rescue1, they have guns there :)
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Very glad to hear of your wifes continued improvment,
You know how when you see a person in a wheel chair you naturally make way ( as we should) or you see a person with a disabilty we naturally become a little more paitent.
The problem hear is maybe that guy has to put up with people on the wrong side of the footpath every day and he's jack of it and says to himself well today I'm not moving.
Problem is he's decided to stick his guns on a day when a very decent member of society is trying to recover from surgery.
I'm sure if he was to read this post he would feel about 1 inch tall as he may well be a half decent person too.
I will admit I have done 1 or 2 things in my life that I look back on now and still feel bad about . Had I know about the persons condition I would have acted very differently and as such still carry the guilt today.
Luckily your wife was not hurt and I wish you both all the best for her continued recovery.
Jetcrew :D :D
G'day Jetcrew,
Thanks for the well wishes for the wife.... And yep i understand how people get annoyed with continual hassles other people create, ie, walking on the wrong side of the footpath. However i think it will be a big down hill slide for society when we accept that it's ok to wake up in the morning and decide, that today i'm not moving for anyone, even if it's a lady.
I find it hard to consider this bloke is anything near a half decent person for 2 reasons.... 1 He walked quite deliberately into my wife. 2 I told him she'd just had surgery, to which he replied "good on her".
I'm pretty sure any half decent person even on a bad day, would accept their poor actions and apologize immediately.
Again thanks for the well wishes, and thanks for replying to my post. Also just to make it clear, i am in no way suggesting that you are accepting what this bloke did is ok , and i appreciate and respect your points on this matter.
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Mate i gotta hand it to ya :cheers: because i would have ....
Unfortunately the word respect doesnt mean much to half the population, and the other half go camping ;D
Speedy recovery to your wife, i hope her wellbeing is restored quickly :cheers:
cheers BD
Thanks mate...... I have some doubt to over the true physical possibilities of this often used expression of anyone sticking a spine up the fore mentioned orifice or any orifice for that matter...... but i do appreciate your honest expression of how you feel. ;D ........Maybe it would be possible if the spine was inserted one vertebrae at a time????
Anyway, we'll leave that be for now......... And yep the Mrs is coming along fine......... Thanks for your reply.
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Silly bugger takes a swing at me, so I reach in turn off the engine grab his keys and fling them to the other side of Park St and keep walking.....(score 2 for the good guys)
I found this quite amusing as about 20yrs ago a mate and i were out cruising around when a car load of young d*ckheads almost pushed us of the road then continued to almost side swipe other cars before pulling up at a red light, my mate who was driving the car i was in stopped our car got out and walked past about 8 other disgruntled drivers in the two lanes waiting at the lights to get to the d*ckheads car and did exactly what you did....... he got cheers from all the other motorists..... hehehe.
Thanks for the well wishes.
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Righto , righto....... no one has called anyone anything............... all just take a chill pill.
The reason i posted this topic was to act as a reminder to all to be more considerate of others in or day to day lives, whether it be walking, driving or i guess on forums....
So lets take 5 to think about that......... and all look after each other.
Good on'yas all and thanks for the replies.
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G'day all,
... anyway they looked quite determined to own "their" side of the footpath so i stepped to the other side momentarily
I love situations like that, I stare them down and dont move an inch. They usually give in, if they dont, Im quite a hard object to move :)
PS. Wrong side of the footpath?? never knew here was one.
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I love situations like that, I stare them down and dont move an inch. They usually give in, if they dont, Im quite a hard object to move :)
PS. Wrong side of the footpath?? never knew here was one.
Isn't that exactly what the other bloke did????????
Where were you last saturday??
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I'm sure if he was to read this post he would feel about 1 inch tall as he may well be a half decent person too.
Jetcrew :D :D
Possibly but unlikely jetcrew I find that the allot of people these days don't care about anyone but themselves >:( >:( >:D
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Barrabart Do me a Favor ,,,,,,, Go & give Mrs Barrabart a big hug & a kiss from me to help her to get her better soon . That wasnt to hard was it . If I get you to do this I cant get into much troble can I ?. :cheers:
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I was in Melbourne the other day. I am helping my mrs carry the pram, and our 1 year old, up a long flight of stairs. We are on the left hand side. I have one hand on the pram and one hand holding onto our 4 year olds hold. The mrs is also herding our 6 year old up the stairs. Coming down the stairs is a 50 year old guy and his wife. When we meet head on he refuses to move. His wife does not move either. We end up yielding and going around them. He tells me "learn to Fing walk". I really wanted to tell him "to the left in this country mate". I did not want scene with the kids seeing it. Some people are born Aholes. They can't be heaped.
Mike
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The health and welfare of MRS BARRABART is without doubt the most import thing in all this and I reiterate my best wishes and continued recovery.
Many years ago when I thought I was a tough guy I used to say things like we have all said in some recent posts and one day I was driving along the highway towing my boat and this idiot was doing 50k/ph in the right lane so I as a big tough guy I started to tailgate and give the flash of the lights ect you know because I was the most important person in the world .
So this fool slows down even more which further irritates me and i hop on the horn and place the ARB bar about 6 inches from the rear of this car...
THEN the car comes to a complete stop in the right hand lane ,well that's it I get out and walk up to the driver..
I find a 70 year old lady besides herself with fear ,shaking uncontrollably and in tears , I instantly feel like the right prick I was and find out here husband a ww2 vet is hospital about to die and she had no money for a taxi so she took the car . I can not explain to you all how that incident has stayed with me for my entire adult life and the guilt I still feel today .
I think I am a decent person ,but on that day I made one very silly decision.
So I guess my point is that although she should not have been on the road and all that it still did not excuse my behaviour and to this day i try to redeem myself because of it and try to see the best in everyone and hope that like me they just made a very silly decision on a given day.
We are all very good people on this forum and I would hate to think that we could not as a group claim and hold the moral high ground when discussing these situations . I will always hope upon hope that every time someone does something stupid like this bloke did that they will regret it and spend the rest of their life as I have reminding themself of how our actions can effect other decent people.
I know it's easy to vent and want to lynch them and string em up but as a society if we get to that level over every incident then we leave ourselves no room to move on the larger issues . And this is what seems to be the case these days,we all want vengeance over every little thing ,but vengeance leaves a very hollow feeling long after the fire has simmered .
If we lynched this bloke and had his kids or mother staring at us begging for mercy how would we all feel. Your right he acted like a right prick but you my friend are the better human being and acted like it on the day, maybe not today or tomorrow but one day i hope he will regret the course of action he took , and may show the same decency and overall strength of character that you showed should he ever be faced with a prick like he was.
I know I have portrayed myself as the devils advocate on this issue ,but I have seen what happens when a group of decent people alter their actions because of others ,is starts a spiral that is almost impossible to reverse.
Both you and your wife are the better people and should be commended for your restraint , Patience and understanding that some times we as humans do very silly things to eachother.
I hope this may have shed some light on my perspective and I apologise if my comments caused you or your wife any greater anguish than you are currently going through it was certainly not my intent.
Kind regards
and best wishes
Jetcrew :D :D
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Don't try any of that in Seth Efrika rescue1, they have guns there :)
Fortunately the vast majority of people here are quite friendly and polite. If the traffic lights aren't working evrybody stops and takes it in turns to go - even if you're doing a right hand turn. On narrow country roads the slow vehicles pull to the left to let the faster ones past, the slow vehicle flashes his lights to indicate its ok to pull back in and the faster gives 3 flashes of the hazard lights as thank you. Back home if that ever happend there'd be a cop to book the slow driver for travelling in the "breakdown" lane and flashing his head lights and the faster one for crossing the centre line.....
One thing I have learned as I've got older and learned a lot of the things I though I knew when I was younger is that most of the time there's no point in getting angry at 90% of the arrogant pr*cks as they don't understand and the other 10% get even more p*ssed off when you don't react.
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The health and welfare of MRS BARRABART is without doubt the most import thing in all this and I reiterate my best wishes and continued recovery.
Many years ago when I thought I was a tough guy I used to say things like we have all said in some recent posts and one day I was driving along the highway towing my boat and this idiot was doing 50k/ph in the right lane so I as a big tough guy I started to tailgate and give the flash of the lights ect you know because I was the most important person in the world .
So this fool slows down even more which further irritates me and i hop on the horn and place the ARB bar about 6 inches from the rear of this car...
THEN the car comes to a complete stop in the right hand lane ,well that's it I get out and walk up to the driver..
I find a 70 year old lady besides herself with fear ,shaking uncontrollably and in tears , I instantly feel like the right prick I was and find out here husband a ww2 vet is hospital about to die and she had no money for a taxi so she took the car . I can not explain to you all how that incident has stayed with me for my entire adult life and the guilt I still feel today .
I think I am a decent person ,but on that day I made one very silly decision.
So I guess my point is that although she should not have been on the road and all that it still did not excuse my behaviour and to this day i try to redeem myself because of it and try to see the best in everyone and hope that like me they just made a very silly decision on a given day.
We are all very good people on this forum and I would hate to think that we could not as a group claim and hold the moral high ground when discussing these situations . I will always hope upon hope that every time someone does something stupid like this bloke did that they will regret it and spend the rest of their life as I have reminding themself of how our actions can effect other decent people.
I know it's easy to vent and want to lynch them and string em up but as a society if we get to that level over every incident then we leave ourselves no room to move on the larger issues . And this is what seems to be the case these days,we all want vengeance over every little thing ,but vengeance leaves a very hollow feeling long after the fire has simmered .
If we lynched this bloke and had his kids or mother staring at us begging for mercy how would we all feel. Your right he acted like a right prick but you my friend are the better human being and acted like it on the day, maybe not today or tomorrow but one day i hope he will regret the course of action he took , and may show the same decency and overall strength of character that you showed should he ever be faced with a prick like he was.
I know I have portrayed myself as the devils advocate on this issue ,but I have seen what happens when a group of decent people alter their actions because of others ,is starts a spiral that is almost impossible to reverse.
Both you and your wife are the better people and should be commended for your restraint , Patience and understanding that some times we as humans do very silly things to eachother.
I hope this may have shed some light on my perspective and I apologise if my comments caused you or your wife any greater anguish than you are currently going through it was certainly not my intent.
Kind regards
and best wishes
Jetcrew :D :D
No anguish here mate.......... like i said i earlier i appreciate and respect your points on this matter........... And i'm sure once you seen the old lady in the car you didn't continue with your initial intentions....... that there is the significant difference between half decent and decent.
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Guys, to be honest I think this thread has just about run its course. We have received requests to close this thread and if it does not die a natural death soon, then it will be closed.
Cheers,
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Sent ya a message mate, feel free to shut it down........ never meant for the post to be anymore then a reminder for people to be more considerate of others.
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Isn't that exactly what the other bloke did????????
Where were you last saturday??
car was in panelbeater....
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Just share my experience, My wife had a begnine tumor removed from her hearing/balance nerves about 13yrs back, about 6hrs in theater, about 2 days later, Doctor comes by tells us she is fine to travel home ,then refuses to sign documents that allow us to claim some costs as he feels she does not need an escort to get home, she had to learn to walk with no balance on one side. Short story I controlled my self and the Doctor did not have to learn how to fly from a 7th floor window, we did get the signature but no personal apology (Doctors back them did not know how to) and she stayed in hospital for another 4 days ( Sydney to Wollongbar trip 3 days, was all she could handle) so much for what that ass knew, it had more to do with bed space, that still ticks me off. >:(
Grizzly
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karma will get him.
hope your misses gets better soon.
bert
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Bert 56
Thanks this all happened about 12yrs back and the Boss is copping well, she is deaf in one ear and has balance on one side the deafness helps her cope with my snoring and the othe rmeans she is a bit unbalanced! ;D
Grizzly