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General => Introductions => Topic started by: cruisindub on February 25, 2014, 04:02:18 AM
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Fell off the myswag radar for some time a while back.
Ignored a few personal and friendly and very helpful PMs, I apologise.
Long story short, I was contemplatibg a career change, with no job security at all.
Was feeling quite down and doubting myself ALOT.
Had a few other issues, health wise. Few deaths in the family, close family.
Wife hit me with a bombshell and told me she's leaving me, sank deeper and deeper into the dark hole I now understand to be depression.
Didn't want to see friends, pushed myself away from family and sunk ever deeper.
Not afraid to say it, but with medication and counselling, started coming back up. Its not a pooftas disease or anything, or a poor excuse, it really messes with you and is more common than most people think.
I didn't want to leave the safety of my own house, didn't want to see anyone and definitely didn't want to try anything for fear of failure or rejection or loss.
Now back on myswag, and I know its not the same, but its start to being social again......
Swaggers might have a different view of me, but only those who've dealt with it really understand.
Hope I can keep going stronger and keep on track.
Hope to rejoin the myswag and see what I've missed out on all this time.
Thanks
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Mate, your not alone by any means, been there done that, one foot in front of the other. Take each day as it comes, there is light at the end of the tunnel and its not a train.
You'll get there... :cheers:
BHG
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Welcome back, you've just taken the hardest step 8)
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Welcome back...I admire your courage in telling your story, it benefits you and everyone else for telling it.
Cheers
Grant
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Welcome back mate.
:cheers:
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Welcome back mate. Sounds like you have been to hell and back. We are an extended family on here and here to listen and support. Your not alone.
Sounds like you have taken some big steps well done :cup:
:cheers: BD
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Welcome back mate. Sounds like you have been to hell and back. We are an extended family on here and here to listen and support. Your not alone.
Sounds like you have taken some big steps well done :cup:
:cheers: BD
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Welcome back mate we are here to help sometimes ;D
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Welcome back and good to have you back.
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welcome back mate. very tough times you've had & still to tackle, plenty of support on here
Swannie
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Good to have you :cheers:
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Hope to rejoin the myswag and see what I've missed out on all this time.
The only real change is a propensity for male breast shots......!
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Hi Cruisin
well done old mate, your post took a lot of courage and really shows what a strong person you are
Trust yourself to believe there are better days ahead, and make sure to look out for the times magic happens, just like the days Shit happens, they are there
There is no shame in depression, it is a nasty horrible thing and you are entitled to our support, no doubt plenty on here have first hand experience and know your pain
Keep strong and one day at a time, keep faith in your strength
regards
Glen
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Far out mate. Wondered what had happened to you. Good to hear you are on the road back to good health. Give me a shout if you need to talk. Always willing to listen.
KB
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Welcome back. Depression can be described as "sadness gone stale". Trick is to not let it go mouldy! By the sound of it you've taken the right steps to get things back on track.
As you've discovered, it is a very real medical condition but for some reason if you have a "traditional" disease people feel sorry for you but when it's a mental health issue they keep clear. The responses on MySwag suggest that you've come to the right place for a bit of support and understanding.
All the best
Adrian
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As others have said, great to have you back.
Along with others I did wonder why you had gone missing. Great to hear that some actually spent the time to shoot a pm, even if you wernt in that space to answer them.
All the best pal.
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Great to have you back. Thought you'd been a bit quiet.
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Welcome back and thanks for sharing. As has already been said you are not alone and have come to the right place for some support.
Depression and othe mental health issues are often shunned, many of us have been through it and from the sounds of it people here are very supportive and understanding which is fantastic.
Thanks for sharing and thanks to the MySwag Community for being understanding.
Bunyip
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Welcome back.
Looks like you are healing already by telling what happened.
God bless.
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Welcome back Mate.
You certainly don't lack courage and honesty. I hope things get better for you. It will be good to have you around again.
:cheers:
Muz.
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:cup: Good Stuff!!
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Welcome back and with such an honest post that was probably hard to type and hit send I think more and more people are becoming aware of the reality of depression/anxiety/panic attacks that these are not some made up thing in the persons mind but are very real and can be very hard to deal with. I do think there is still a long way for society to go on it but heading in the right direction. Myswag is like a big family so I am sure you will be glad to be back amongst it.
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Great to have you back CruisinDub, and you telling us your circumstances is inspiring!! Realising, and then talking about depression is the hardest step, and you have done that admirably, and no doubt encouraged others to do so as well!!
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Great to have you back cruisindub, and you telling us your circumstances is inspiring!! Realising, and then talking about depression is the hardest step, and you have done that admirably, and no doubt encouraged others to do so as well!!
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Great to have you back and by the sounds of it well on the way to recovery (?) While I very much doubt anyone here would ever judge you if they do, tell em to feck off!
Just remember.... Baby steps
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Welcome back - Never feel like your the only person thats gone through this, and dont be afraid to ask for help (from anyone).
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The "Black Dog" is always sitting just outside my backdoor, some days he gets his nose in the door, some days I can chase him right down the back yard, but every morning he's back there at the door waiting for me to slip.
PM me to have a chat, I've been/am there
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Not long diagnosed with bp2 and something i've been dealing with since late teens, with counselling and meds and not giving up on yourself things get better, so your not alone and its a HUGE problem in socitey so I'm learning, when ya stop learning then you have problems..
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Another hand up here for Bipolar Two.
Your post was very courageous because depression is a hard thing to talk about.
Know that, here at least, you are among friends, many of whom have experienced and understand depression.
Keith
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I do not have depression and always wondered what it was all about.. "come on just dust yourself off was my attitude"
UNTIL..
Last year I lost my mate as some of you know to suicide and all I could think off through the whole process of the funeral plans was
"If only he knew how many people were grieving and what a massive hole he had left " How could he have not known ?
So no matter how bad the days get, please always talk to someone the loss of anyone is hard but I would be further wrecked if I knew a member on her was close to the edge and did not seek out one of us to talk to.
Bloody hats off to you and all the members on here who have opened up about their very personal struggles, :cup: :cup: :cup:
some days it might seem like nobody cares but I can tell you there are lots of people who do, and although we have never personally met ..your important to me as another myswag member/camping brother and just as another Aussie bloke so you see your valued and respected in places you prob did not even know to people you prob had no idea about.
I have done lots of reading since my mate left us and I now understand more about that wretched black dog and just how cunning he can be.
Takes balls to stand up and shout out when you see him coming.. your :cup: :cup: in my book for doing that.
Because as I have recently learnt the black dog only likes to hunt in the dark so the more we put the spotlight on him the better.
Kindest regards
Jet ;D ;D
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Good to hear from you again and look forward to reading your very thoughtful post again.
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RUOK
https://www.ruokday.com (https://www.ruokday.com)
Go on, ask a mate "RUOK?" You will feel better for it and so will he or she.
KB
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I do not have depression and always wondered what it was all about.. "come on just dust yourself off was my attitude"
UNTIL..
Last year I lost my mate as some of you know to suicide and all I could think off through the whole process of the funeral plans was
"If only he knew how many people were grieving and what a massive hole he had left " How could he have not known ?
So no matter how bad the days get, please always talk to someone the loss of anyone is hard but I would be further wrecked if I knew a member on her was close to the edge and did not seek out one of us to talk to.
Bloody hats off to you and all the members on here who have opened up about their very personal struggles, :cup: :cup: :cup:
some days it might seem like nobody cares but I can tell you there are lots of people who do, and although we have never personally met ..your important to me as another myswag member/camping brother and just as another Aussie bloke so you see your valued and respected in places you prob did not even know to people you prob had no idea about.
I have done lots of reading since my mate left us and I now understand more about that wretched black dog and just how cunning he can be.
Takes balls to stand up and shout out when you see him coming.. your :cup: :cup: in my book for doing that.
Because as I have recently learnt the black dog only likes to hunt in the dark so the more we put the spotlight on him the better.
Kindest regards
Jet ;D ;D
Well written Jet.
In my profession we see the acute of many mental health conditions and unfortunately for so many men it is a sad end to what looked from the outside to be such an honest and fulfilling life.
Men are very poor at discussing these issues and forums like this where it is acknowledged and respected by other forum members can only help open the discussion channels.
Hats of to the OP for being frank enough to bring it up and hope the 'black dog' soon disappears forever. Welcome back and enjoy what life still has to throw at you despite your recent tough times.
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Welcome back mate! You're always welcome here! I admire your strength in posting up about a very difficult time in your life. The amount of swaggers with first hand experience with such trying times who are willing to lend an ear or some advice is truly inspirational. :cup:
Great to have you back!
John
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Hey mate, if or whenever you come up our way, please let me know and I'll take a few days off and show you around. Jen and my shout. ;D
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Hats off to you for sharing your personal story.
Take care of yourself. You have just hurdled your first large hurdle
Well done
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Respect. 8)
Nomad.
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Great to have you back. So, we have more than 'Dubs' and CTs in common.
There have been times that the MySwag family has kept me sane - if that doesn't seem contradictory.
You are not alone, lots of us walk a similar road and are happy to talk.
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Good on you, welcome back. I had wondered where you went, glad you came back :cheers:
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Welcome back mate! It takes real courage to tell your story. Take one day at a time. I wish you good health and happiness.
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Hey mate welcome back. Good on you for sharing, it is amazing how close we all could be to the situation.
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A Late reply by me, but its good to have you back mate.
Your honesty is inspiring. After a couple of people very close to me got bitten by depression and myself teetering on the edge a few years ago, I can only imagine just how tough it was to take those first few steps forward. I know how hard it is to see past the fog.
But by doing so you are walking yourself out, and that's what's important.
It takes big cahoonas to put such a personal matter out in public, be it with friends or here with extended friends ;)
Good on you mate and from the bottom of my heart I wish you the best on the road to recovery.
Cheers
Evo
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Welcome back mate. Communication is the key. Keep your chin up mate and keep kicking those goals